Have you been told you are fault-finding, overly critical, or a bummer to be around? Odds are you are using a mismatch sorting strategy and it is affecting your life. This mindset can prevent joy and connection from happening, leading to loneliness, frustration, and maybe even depression. Sometimes finding what's wrong is a valuable skill, and in [...]
Even smart people sometimes need to "get unstuck." Part of my coaching practice is helping clients to move behavior from the “automatic” to the “aware” parts of their brains. There is plenty of scientific research supporting the neurological basis of our behavior. We can, indeed, make choices that change our thinking and thus alter the structure of our brains. Change [...]
Negative sentences have a very powerful effect on human consciousness. Structuring sentences in our minds is a habit that is built from years of practice and reinforcement from family and peers. In fact, the habit of negative sentences and thoughts pushes away people who are positive. Negative sentences literally create bad feelings in others by the [...]
Recently I was visiting Portland, OR with my family and found myself at Powell's World of Books (If you've never been, please get there - the place is AMAZING). I ended up with a little stack of books related to my field, and really enjoyed NeuroLogic: The Brain's Hidden Rationale Behind Our Irrational Behavior by [...]
In my work as a coach I have learned much about how to ask good coaching questions. Questions are at the heart of coaching - the sort of questions that as an individual we don't always know how to ask ourselves. If we knew the right thing to do immediately, we'd likely just do it. We [...]