Next Level Listening – Non-Verbal Awareness For Coaches

What is Next Level Listening? Next Level Listening is a toolkit synthesized from communication theory, non-verbal communications training, and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). When used in a traditional ICF certified coaching context these tools add depth and insight to coaching conversations, allowing the coach to reflect back observations that create new awareness and finer distinctions about non-verbal behavior. NLP is described as the…

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Credulousness – Being Literal About Metaphors

When sharing experiences with one another it is easy to believe we are communicating in literal terms. Closer examination reveals that most communication is abstracted into metaphor. Our life is shared with others through both subtle and colorful abstractions. I’ve been exploring, studying, and training in transformational modalities for nearly two decades. Figures such as Virginia Satir, Dr. Milton Erickson, John…

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Break The Fault-Finding Cycle And Discover The Secrets Of Your Sorting Strategy

Have you been told you are fault-finding, overly critical, or a bummer to be around? Odds are you are using a mismatch sorting strategy and it is affecting your life. This mindset can prevent joy and connection from happening, leading to loneliness, frustration, and maybe even depression. Sometimes finding what's wrong is a valuable skill, and in other contexts it can work…

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Get Unstuck From The Grip of Behavioral Paradox

Even smart people sometimes need to "get unstuck." Part of my coaching practice is helping clients to move behavior from the “automatic” to the “aware” parts of their brains. There is plenty of scientific research supporting the neurological basis of our behavior. We can, indeed, make choices that change our thinking and thus alter the structure of our brains. Change happens when there are two…

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The Insidious Power of Negative Sentences

Negative sentences have a very powerful effect on human consciousness. Structuring sentences in our minds is a habit that is built from years of practice and reinforcement from family and peers. In fact, the habit of negative sentences and thoughts pushes away people who are positive. Negative sentences literally create bad feelings in others by the power of suggestion. For people…

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